The benefits arising from mentorship relations are myriad. Besides, individuals who go through good mentorship processes and establish sustainable relationships with their mentors have greater chance to succeed in the endeavors. Victoria Black defines mentorability as the unique ability of a person to engage in mutually beneficial and rewarding developmental relationship (TED Talks, 2019). Therefore, mentorability is significant to broad array of people whether working or students. Victoria Black mentions three critical concepts critical in promoting mentorability. These are commitment, reciprocity and vulnerability. I agree with Black that these components are fundamental in adequately establishing and promoting a productive mentorship program.
In my view, a mentee must show commitment in looking for help from people with advanced knowledge and experience. Many times, mentors have complained that their mentees do not listen to them because these mentees show less commitment and are unfocused towards the remarkable achievement of the objectives of specific mentorship programs. Indeed, it is important for mentees to facilitate the process of acquiring knowledge and life skills by being present both physically and mentally. Commitment is a virtue of life because it allows people to dedicate efforts towards achieving life aspirations and goals thus it should be embraced.
I agree with Victoria Black that reciprocity is a necessity for a successful mentorship relationship. Life dynamics constantly change and people develop by gaining knowledge from others. Today, course instructors learn new concepts from their students as the learners learn from the teachers. Indeed, mentees must be ready to exchange information with their mentors to develop a mutual relationship. Mentorability is no longer a one-way relationship because mentors also need to learn from their experiences (TED Talks, 2019). I believe that mentors work with many people thus an experience shared by one mentee can be useful to another. Indeed, the only way to facilitate the process of mentorship while supporting mentors is to give something back.
I share Victoria Black’s assertion that mentees need to express their earnest desire to learn by being vulnerable for change. Since change is inevitable, it is significant for mentees to typically allow mentors to change some aspects of their life to allow growth and development. Nonetheless, mentees must demonstrate open-mindedness for change to sustain a flourishing relationship.
Overall, commitment, reciprocity, and vulnerability adequately summarize the most significant components that enhance mentoring relationships. However, I feel other components can boost the relationship and move it to the next level. These include role modeling mentors are expected to showcase their academic accomplishments, work and life success that mentee can relate with. Additionally, mentee can be driven by specific and well-articulated goals and challenges warranting the need for help and support (Fawal, 2018). Sustained collaboration with other mentees from other sectors can provide insightful experiences from past mentorship programs applicable to current relationships. Finally, there has to be mutual respect between the mentor and mentee to ensure the relationship is professional and everybody fulfills their obligations.
I have had the opportunity to be guided by ‘The anchor’ who is uncle. Though he does not work in the same industry as me, he has guided me through my life goals. As my mentor, this individual has been instrumental in assisting me to navigate through life hurdles and often advise me in cases where I have shown signs of deviating from societal values. Even though he has offered much help in achieve my career goals. As part of our established relationship, we are sincere to each other and I confide in him to the extent of revealing personal issues. The relationship has satisfactorily been established on mutual trust and respect. Moreover, I have seen other people succeed because of mentorship and guidance help offered by responsible family members.
Currently, my mentor is a “champion of my course”. I need elaborate networks and personal connections within my career industry. This particular mentor should be able to assist me bridge my knowledge and skills to the standard prescribed by the industry. This person does not necessarily have to come from the workplace but should be able to link up with successful people within a wider industry reach. According to Houseworth-Weston (2019), a person capable of establishing work networks is significant in improving skill sets to match the previous demands of an industry. I know such a person can be helpful in keeping me abreast with the latest developments in the industry. Consequently, through the champion, I can be able to meet other mentors, mentees, partners, and clients who could be helpful in providing insights on how to develop my career. Though, it is important to nurture a culture as prescribed by Victoria Black. Hence, I need to show commitment and demonstrate an open-mind in dealing with potential networks of people. I know that it is not wise to fail a mentor by not fulfilling my obligations as a mentee. I have to prove that the established relationship and the networks are sustainable.
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