Marriage is one of the major decisions in life. Currently, the institution of marriage faces numerous challenges that necessitate a thoughtful process before making a decision. Various persons hold different thoughts on who, when, and why to marry. The current generation does not see the need to commit to a marital relationship for different reasons. The definition of marriage and family has also changed over time. I had to make a decision about settling in a marriage after a process. I am a proponent of a heterosexual relationship. Before making the decision, I had to look at the economics involved and the need for a committed long-term relationship. Such considerations assured me of a home that children would enjoy and grow up in love (Glenn, Uecker, & Love, 2010).
Considerations Involved in the Decision Making
According to Eickmeyer, Manning, & Brown (2019), marriage is a union that should last as long as both the parties are alive. Therefore, I had various considerations of my intentions in light of the objectives of the relationship. Some of the factors were economics and the need for commitment. Other people may have their considerations for marriage.
Economic stability ensures that the family gets daily provisions. Marital commitment requires resources, which require a stable income, in order to flourish (Khorasani & Ghiasvand, 2018). Therefore, I asked myself if my source of income could sustain a family. As a family, we would need a good and furnished home that offers security to the whole family. Moreover, the economic benefits also come from the fact that my partner and I could pool our resources for our benefit. According to Merkurieva (2019), in normal business operations, when two firms merge, they enjoy better economies of scale. Therefore, I had to think of the economics before making a move to settle down in the marriage. Two lovers who are not married would likely not commit their resources to build the other person, thus lack of economies of scale.
Marriage helps in commitment to the spouse and not any other person. The decision to get married was to help me commit to a monogamous life. The desire for a committed relationship was a major consideration before settling in marriage. I knew that in a committed relationship, children find a good environment for growth and proper upbringing (Carr, 2004). I had to weigh between having children out of marriage against having them within marriage. Most of the societal problems are a result of the children brought up either by single parents or in broken marriages. Marriage offers a commitment that brings discipline concerning sexual matters (Wiederman, 1997). The commitment helps partners avoid sex out of a marriage that may lead to divorce as well as financial and other emotional problems.
Summary for This Section
Economics and the need for commitment are major factors that must be considered before getting married. Financial issues are a source of problems in many homes today. Therefore, the parties must ensure that they are able to provide for their families before settling down. In addition, commitment to marriage has more benefits to the couple.
Reasons for the Decision
The decision to get married was important because of the happiness that comes from the commitment between the two partners. Such a commitment also brings the best in each person to grow in various ways. One lives knowing there is someone who cares and understands his/her deepest feelings.
Marriage leads to Oneness
The commitment to each other in marriage brings people close to share the most intimate things like sex, joys, worries, and burdens. In such a setting, oneness is shown as each partner shares resources for the benefit of each other as a sign of love and commitment. Therefore, marriage presents a life-partner with whom one can walk through the challenges of life. Research shows that married partners live longer than people who stay single in life. In such a setting, children are raised in a healthy marriage. Research shows that children raised without fathers risk abusing drugs, developing behavioral disorders, and criminal activities (Levitan, 2014).
Summarizing the Outcome of the Decision
The decision to get married comes from the benefits of unselfish love from both partners. The decision to commit to marriage has more benefits than having a relationship without long-term commitment. The decision to get married seems the best option because of the current economic situation and the agreement between the parties.
Summary and Conclusions
The decision to get married needs a careful thought process. According to this analysis, marriage is the better option. Many persons find it difficult to stay in a marriage because of the lack of selfless commitment towards each other. Inability to commit resources to help build each other in the family leads to disagreements and lack of trust. As a result, children are either raised up in a broken family or with divorced parents. Commitment to love and supporting each other in marriage helps build the family through difficult times that may come later in life.
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