Paradigm concerns the unique ways in which people describe or make contributions to existing standards in their field of study. This implies that a paradigm would describe a situation indirectly, where participants are required to make their own conclusions (Barker, 2013). In other words, a paradigm is a generally accepted way of living.
One of the paradigms that I personally have is about courtship. It should be a two-way affair where both parties contribute fully for the wellbeing of the relationship. By doing this, both parties are content with each other.
The encouraging aspect of being positively oriented when engaging in a close relationship is about caring for each other. This has seen me through difficulties, and was a central issue in my relationship with my girlfriend (Gies & Gies, 2013). Mutual understanding and care have enhanced peaceful consideration and cooperation in carrying out relationship-related issues.
On the other hand, I have also experienced negative consequences where one member fails and deviates from the normal way of doing things. One such incidence has involved relationship misunderstandings on certain issues such as management of cell phone. This caused distrust between my girlfriend and I.
My perceptions about relationships have hindered the process of accepting, processing, and adapting to new changes. As concerns accepting new ideas in a relationship, this may become a challenge due to the responsibilities that set in. The processing and adapting process is not easy for two lovers because new ideas are not clear about the future.
Some people believe and apply the paradigm that a man is the main contributor in the relationship. It means that he is solely responsible for the welfare and the downfall of a relationship. In the event of a break-up, man is blamed for the ordeal.
This kind of observation helps in clarifying the duties and responsibilities of a man in the relationship. However, it is also a hindrance in context of the fact that a relationship needs efforts from both parties in order to gain success. This undermines the efforts and contribution of female parties in a relationship.
The three principles of paradigms include positivism, value-free sociology, and social constructionism. These should be applied by leaders in carrying out their daily businesses. It helps to connect well with individuals in the community (Prehofer & Bettstetter, 2010).
Barker, J. (2013, December 13). New Business of Paradigms [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CB0QtwIwAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DAesl6HeiwOg&ei=P0qVVdGZIabV7ga33qzoAg&usg=AFQjCNHdcECfXxI2U-c5ReCmanbeTSZrgg&bvm=bv.96952980,d.ZGU
Gies, F., & Gies, J. (2013). Marriage and the family in the Middle ages. New York: Harper & Row.
Prehofer, C., & Bettstetter, C. (2010). Self-organization in communication networks: principles and design paradigms. IEEE Communications Magazine, 11(2), 34-40. doi:10.1109/MCOM.2005.1470824