How To Win friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is a great book for all the people who want to be great leaders who are likeable, influential and persuasive and through building social skills and intelligence want to improve their lives. The key learning which can be learnt from this book are:
1. Do not criticize, condemn or complain
Any leader should look towards their juniors and never criticize them. Even if people aren’t meeting your expectations, it is said in the book that it is the job of a fool to criticize people and not forget them. True leader are the ones who are understanding and forgiving in nature.
2. Praising the achievements of others
It is necessary to appreciate and praise everyone who achieve something. they may be your juniors, your seniors or even your competitors, it is great to praise people for achieving something(Carnegie).
3. Encourage people to talk
It is a great thing to let people talk and open about themselves. Give an empathetic ear and let them come out with their problems, fears and also their good moment. It is always good to lend a good listening ear. Not only it shows your genuine interest in them but also makes other people trust you.
4. Acknowledge your mistakes
Nothing makes you a better person than accepting your own mistakes. It shows your humbleness and your accepting nature to your own flaws(TIPEI 621-649). Other than these there are a lot of other messages which the book gives out about being empathetic, avoiding argument and most important of always smiling.
Carnegie, Dale. How To Win Friends And Influence People. Print.
TIPEI, ALEX R. “HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE: ELEMENTARY EDUCATION, FRENCH “INFLUENCE,” AND THE BALKANS, 1815–1830S.” Modern Intellectual History 15.3 (2017): 621-649. Web.