Sample Article Review on BDSM Lifestyle questions

Pawlowski’s approach on BDSM sexual behavior is logical. According to his argument, BDSM cannot be ruled as a harmful sexual practice due to the varied intensities of the behaviors, psychological interpretations, and the participants’ perceptions. If the behaviors are mild and the participants consider the engagement fun, BDSM becomes a healthy form of sexual expression and vice versa. Pawloeski clearly explains how traditional sexual partners engage in activities related to BDSM such as spanking and holding one in place to enhance intimacy. The outcome of the engagement lies in how both couples interpret the behavior. Furthermore, Pawlowski explains that BDSM practices are normally guided by principles such as negotiation, equality, consensual, self-affirming, and never under the influence. When these factors are considered, BDSM becomes a harmless behavior. The mentioned beliefs, according to Pawlowski, signify a healthy sexual relationship. Therefore, BDSM cannot be ruled as a harmful form of sexual expression unless violence and crime is involved.

The prevalence of sexual sadism implies that BDSM can lead to crime and violence. BDSM involves bondage, dominance, and sadomasochism. While these behaviors can be mild and consensual, they can also be intense and cause harm. Sexual sadism crime including rape, involves behaviors like torture, dismembering of victims, and killing. Consensual BDSM can lead to crime due to the likelihood of the participants to get overwhelmed by the moment and intensify their actions, which can in turn inflict undesired pain on the other party. In extreme cases where strangulation is involved, a participant can die. Also, while consensual BDSM practitioners observe the principle of “not under the influence”, the practitioners can overlook the rule and engage in BDSM while under the influence. When intoxication is involved, practitioners can easily misinterpret the partners’ response, fail to know when to stop, and cause severe pain or death.

Biologically, Federoff explains that one’s failure to become sufficiently aroused by conventional scenarios attracts someone to the BDSM lifestyle. For normal sexual functioning, the serum norepinephrine in both men and women increases 12 more the normal level. Therefore, when an individual is unable to reach orgasm due to insufficient arousal, he/she is likely to boost the release of neropinephrine through methods like self-asphyxia. This strategy of using dangerous activities for stimulation has been identified in paraphilic disorders including sexual sadism. Individuals are also socially influenced to the BDSM lifestyle. BDSM is portrayed in the media, which can easily motivate the viewers to experiment. In the media, BDSM is normally depicted as pleasurable and interesting and hen this message is passed to viewers, most of them develop the curiosity of engaging in the practice.

Individuals acquire fetishes when they start getting sexually attracted to scenarios or objects that are not normally perceived as sexual. For instance, individuals can develop persistent dependence on non-living objects like sex dolls or scenarios that involve infliction of pain to reach sexual arousal. Fedoroff gives an example of transvestic fetishism, in which individuals get sexually aroused when wearing clothes of the opposite gender. Some individuals, particularly sexual sadists, are sexually aroused by fatal asphyxia, which can be done on self or on others. Sexual sadists normally begin with deviant fantasies like women with distressed faces or women in bondage to minor crimes and later intensify their behaviors. Sexual sadisms has also been associated to humiliation in childhood, voyeurism (sexual arousal from watching others people engage in sexual activity or when naked), and obscene phone calls.

Most BDSM scenes in the media portray men giving control to women. This image depicts dominance of the male gender and submission by the female gender. BDSM is sexism both give men the power and make women inferior, which not only limits women sexually but also in the society. Women are often perceived as an inferior sex that can only function (including sexually) when under the control of a man, which denies them a chance to reach their potential in various fields.