How to Break up With a Girlfriend/Boyfriend
Outline
Introduction
- Thesis-There are steps to be taken that ensure your break up with your significant other is as smooth as possible.
Steps to be taken in the breakup process
- The first step in initiating the break up process is deciding whether it is what you really want and why you are doing it.
- The next step is to decide on an appropriate time and place where you can have the conversation.
- Having made up your mind about the time and venue, the next step is to approach him/her for the actual conversation.
- After breaking the news, you need to allow for time to move on for both parties.
Conclusion
How to Break up With a Girlfriend/Boyfriend
Introduction
If you have ever been faced with the dilemma of having to break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and you do not know what to say or how to say it, the good news is that you are not alone. This situation is one that most people have to encounter at some point in their lives and it is useful to know how to negotiate such a situation. You do not have to keep putting off ‘the talk’ and remaining in a relationship that you no longer want to be in. There are steps to be taken that ensure your break up with your significant other is as smooth as possible.
Steps to be taken in the breakup process
The first step in initiating the break up process is deciding whether it is what you really want and why you are doing it. You should take some time to think critically and evaluate whether you really want to go through with it. This is because most people usually make such decisions based on impulsive emotions and inevitably end up regretting afterwards. Try imagining life without them and be sure that you can handle it. The main point here is being clear about your reasons for a break up and having a clear conscience when approaching the situation.
The next step is to decide on an appropriate time and place where you can have the conversation. It is important to break up in person and not over the phone or through messaging. The aspect of a face to face conversation is very important no matter how much you may be irritated with your boyfriend/girlfriend. It shows that you value them as a person and have the respect to face them with an issue of such magnitude. An appropriate time would be when there are no tough personal issues that your girlfriend/boyfriend is dealing with, for example, losing a job or a loved one. An ideal place on the other hand, would be where you can have privacy to talk out your issues. You should also go for a place that allows them to react to the news. For example, if they want to leave to have some alone time, they should be able to do so.
Having made up your mind about the time and venue, the next step is to approach him/her for the actual conversation. You should be very clear in letting your girlfriend/boyfriend know that you have already made up your mind about no longer being in the relationship. Be open and explain to them how hard it has been to come to that decision and the reasons that have led you to it. Make a point of explaining these reasons so as not to leave them wondering what they may have done wrong. This helps them change their behavior for the benefit of their next relationship.
After breaking the news, you need to allow for time to move on for both parties. This involves avoiding situations that may imply that there is a chance for a reunion, for example, it is not really a breakup if you keep hanging around each other. After a breakup, time apart from each other is important, as it will benefit you both.
Conclusion
A breakup does not need to be harder than it already is and if these guidelines are followed, both you and your former boyfriend/girlfriend will maintain mutual respect even after a breakup.